Dealing with cancer

Dealing with cancer

For many people the first few weeks after diagnosis very difficult. Children suffering from malignant disease and their loved ones are experiencing a variety of emotions that can be exchanged by the day. Some of them are: denial, anger, fear, stress, pain, lack of self-control and self-esteem, sadness and depression, guilt, loneliness and hope. 

Family members often seek advice and assistance in counseling than patients, and they are interested in everything from relationship to suffering to some everyday things. Doctors are often so busy with their work that they have no time to talk with the patient and his family about therapies, course of the disease, some types of self-help ... 

The disease, fear of death, feeling that she was actually possible or is already close to forcing us to contemplate and inventory of our lives. It is usually said that the disease, particularly cancer, the whole family earthquakes, leading to a crisis, but also gathers and closer together. In some cases deepens misunderstandings and difficulties that already exist, and often the simplest everyday things become much more difficult and complicated influenced by the knowledge that someone in our family is suffering from cancer. 

  Some of the feelings that you may have are: 

All these feelings are normal. Feeling hopeful is also normal. Nobody cheerful and happy all the time, but while fighting cancer hope can be an important part of your life. 

  People with cancer and their loved ones experience a whole range of different feelings. These feelings may change frequently and without warning. 

 

 

Usually it is said that some things we do not know to appreciate until you lose it. So it is with health. Concern for health, there is usually a time when we lose, when we are faced with a cancer diagnosis. Each person lives in an intimate conviction that is inviolable and is immortal. That's why we always unpleasantly surprised by the appearance of the disease. 

When we say coping with a cancer diagnosis, the majority implies just live with the problem. Coping is, in fact, constantly adapting to the problem, but also finding ways to manage the problem. We can not change the fact that we personally or someone near and dear to us has cancer, but it is important to work to successfully accept this situation, to which we respond appropriately and for better living with cancer. 

When someone finds out that he has cancer, experiencing a full range of emotions: shock, fear, amazement, sadness, disbelief, anger, depression and panic. I do not believe that it happens to him, you do not hear anything anymore as his doctor says he feels even though I was with him, a family member or friend. These are all normal reactions, emotions that can not be hidden. 

The most difficult first days and weeks after diagnosis. The way we perceive the disease as a threat to the individual and important in understanding the disease and adapting to it. People are usually faced with a diagnosis of cancer in three different ways: 

The first is the active mode and focused on problem-solving (the collection of information on available treatment options, taking steps to solve the problem, interest in drugs that reduce nausea, etc..). 

Another way is emotion oriented coping, and is aimed at facilitating the expression of emotions in order to osjedali easier (crying, talking about fear before a new treatment, get support, etc..). 

The third is a way to avoid confrontation-then we do everything else just to not have to deal with the problem, or "forget" deferred "sleep over" let's pretend that the problem does not exist (ignoring control, refuse treatment, we do everything we never did, despite disease, etc..) 

If the disease is seen as a loss of everything before and had lost the knowledge about the disease, there is a feeling of helplessness and the future looks bad. If the disease is seen and perceived as a challenge that can and wants to hold or successfully pass, a person feels optimistic. How to help sick to be easier to cope with the diagnosis, treatment and prognosis of cancer? Psychological support is of utmost importance. The first, which should provide support for partners or friends, family, and friends. Their support is great and irreplaceable. Ill person should first learn to listen, not to burden the fear that you do not know the answer or advice. Sometimes it takes only a smile and a friendly touch. I need help, and not be overly guarding. Compassion, understanding and caring are the most important things that can show and give your loved one in these difficult times. However, they often concern people close (spouses, children, parents) is not sufficient. People with cancer have some kind of restraint that all his fears and feeling of others related to the disease shared with his family, afraid to say them out loud. Delay often comes from the need to protect them and spare the extra care or are completely preoccupied with the disease and are able to communicate. On the other hand, there are patients who are reluctant to talk about the feeling of, and mental disorders are considered a sign of weakness and psychological problems mask and reduced in order to avoid further embarrassment and shame. Studies show that the openness of expressing emotions is essential to better cope with the disease. Then welcome the help of experts to restore hope and gain control over their lives and during treatment and as an aid in times of crisis and loss of emotional strength. Professionals in the field of mental health (psychologists, psychiatrists, psychiatric nurses, therapists) know to provide this kind of help. Help can be provided and group: They are supportive group run by a professional group therapists (but can be guided and by non-professionals), in which patients sharing with others the problems that they brought the cancer. They reduce the feeling of loneliness, Vradim hope, a wider range of the likely positive ways to respond. 

And finally, once again I would say: whether you are a patient with cancer, a family member or friend of someone who is suffering from cancer, do not hesitate to express his feelings of his, every emotion in this situation is normal and justified, the most important is that they have people to share and that you understand that someone with no superfluous "why".